Breaking Up
Feel its time to split up? Being in a relationship with someone
allows you to get attached and become used to that person. Breaking
up is hard as you become attached to your partner. Therefore, it
always best to leave on good terms and with few guilty feelings.
Here are a few tips for breaking up.
Remember to be truthful about your feelings. Do not let your partner
persuade you to stay if deep down inside you want to leave, even
if they try to make you feel guilty. It will just make you both
unhappy if you cannot salvage the relationship. The sooner you do
it the easier it will be in the long run.
Do not tell your partner in a text, email or in public. It is considerate
to talk about your feelings face to face so he/she can talk and
ask you questions about it. Remember to imagine yourself in their
position, you would want to ask questions and discuss what will
happen in the future between you both.
Do not start seeing someone else before ending your relationship.
It will make your partner feel even worse and complicate the situation.
Also, your new partner will have less trust in you.
If it is easier to express your feelings on paper, write them down
in a letter. However, make sure you are with him/her when they read
it so they can discuss the situation.
It may be easier to remain friends, however, you will not be able
to have a close relationship. It is better to remain on speaking
terms but do not stay too close as it will cause friction with new
partners.
Try to stay calm even if your partner has upset you. If you fight
about the situation it will upset both of you even more. Also, do
not point blame at each other, try to accept that your relationship
has moved on.
Being mature about the situation will make it much easier. Try
to leave amicably and considerately.
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